My Goals For 2019

As 2018 comes to a close, I can’t help but wonder what 2019 might hold in-store for me. Creating long-term goals and having aspirations for the year ahead can be positive for my mental health; it gives me something to keep going for, ways to occupy my mind and shifts my perspective on what I can do with  my life. So, I decided to write down some of the goals I want to achieve in 2019. The reason I’m not using the term ‘resolutions’ is that ‘goals’ sounds more positive to me and gives me more room to adapt my plans throughout the year rather than having to stick completely to what I have resolved to achieve for the entirety of 2019.  

My Goals for 2019:

1. To stop playing scratch-cards

2. To find a more permanent/secure living arrangement

3. To create a treatment plan for my mental health

4. To at least be on the waiting list for top-surgery by the end of the year

5. To do more advocacy for mental health and transgender rights

6. To read 25 books

7. To do regular volunteer work for a charity during my summer break

8. To get my drivers’ licence 

9. To let go of toxic relationships and to not harbour unhealthy anger over them afterwards

10. To improve my relationship with food and achieve a healthy weight


If you want to see my daily ramblings, follow me on Twitter – @RyanBInNature.


Feel free to leave some of your goals for the New Year in the comments below!



7 thoughts on “My Goals For 2019”

  1. Ryan I’m sorry if I have offended you in any way. It certainly was not my intention. I apologize.
    I may have problems understanding but I would never judge you. My question was honest and genuine. Again I apologize. You can erase all these messages if you prefer. Peace to you.

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    1. Don’t worry, I really am not offended! I’ve just been taking time away from my blog because the festive period is really difficult for me and I didn’t want to put pressure on myself to create content and reply to comments. I would much rather people ask me questions than just internalise their confusion and never gain an understanding of trans issues! Personally, as a trans male, I know that I need certain surgeries to make my body align with my true gender – at the moment I am stuck with a body I feel repulsed by and which makes me feel depressed, dysphoric and intensely self-conscious.
      I hope this answers your question and please do not hesitate to ask me any other questions you may have about trans issues!

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      1. Ok glad I did not offend you! I’m doing the same thing and stepping back for a few days from blogging. It must be very difficult stuck in the wrong body. I can’t imagine it. Yet is there no way to feel good about who you are? I hope that’s a fair question.


      2. You have mentioned how difficult it is being in your body, and I was wondering specifically about surgery. I wasn’t thinking of hormones. A number of people take hormones, for different reasons. Caitlyn Jenner has not had surgery so I was wondering how you felt. The more we understand the better, I think.


      3. It’s my understanding that Caitlyn Jenner underwent gender reassignment surgery in January 2017. Every trans person’s experience in their own body is individual and different. For me, it is a daily mental burden living with my body as it is and, in my current state, I feel like I am living a lie. I don’t think I could ever be truly happy or fulfilled unless I live my life authentically and be true to myself. For me this means aligning my body with my identity and how I truly see myself.
        Asking questions and attempting to learn about trans issues is a positive thing, so thank you for engaging!

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